The M word is still taboo
Sandra Wilson explains how the menopause…
Lauren Chiren, executive health coach and menopause specialist, discusses the m word: menopause.
Menopause is important for everyone to learn about. 51% of the population will experience it and 100% will be impacted.
150 years or so ago, women typically went through menopause at 57 and died at 59. Towards the end of the last century, women went through menopause quietly at home and, typically, didn’t have to worry about juggling the world of work, childcare and elderly relatives. Now we go through menopause on average, between 45 - 55 although many women experience early menopause or surgically or medically induced as result of certain medications and cancer treatments.
Now, women over 50 are the fastest growing economically active group of women in the UK. 80% of us are in work and we are holding ever more senior roles and carrying more responsibility.
When I spoke at the Women in Law conference at London Olympia in 2019, it was clear from my audience that menopause was a topic not discussed by many in the legal profession at that time. I had a queue of women approach me at the end of the talk asking for more information and how they can broach the conversation with their firms.
I had the pleasure of chatting with a woman from a predominantly all-female practice who was keen to have me come in to chat about menopause. However, when she tried to progress the conversation, it was not deemed a high enough priority.
Traditionally, menopause has been a taboo topic. It was associated with middle aged and older women who were deemed belligerent, out-of-control, plagued by hot flushes and mood swings. Often the butt of jokes and considered irrelevant (think harassment and bullying in today’s employment law terms.) All things that any successful, dynamic and powerful woman today, would actively distance herself from so as not to be tarnished with such accusations.
In order that women start talking more openly – or even privately with a trusted colleague – employers must normalise menopause in the workplace.
Given the range of symptoms, which can vary from day to day and month to month, without the right support women can struggle cognitively, with sleep and with mood, making concentration and focus a challenge at work. This is why it’s so important that education and support is provided.
In my early 40s, I transformed from being a top performer in a senior executive role – looking after regulatory and business-critical change programmes for a financial services firm – to thinking I had early-onset dementia.
I had no idea what was going on and although I had built a great team who continued to perform, I started losing confidence in myself and my performance. I felt excluded from meetings, and became emotional in front of my boss, something I’d never have done in the past.
After 18 months, I left my job. It was a big step. Ultimately, when I reflected on my experience, I realised I had not known what was wrong or how to ask for help. I simply didn’t want to be ‘found lacking’ and, by return, no-one in the business had reached out to help.
Imagine my surprise when I discovered that I’d simply been through a short, sharp and nasty menopause?
Often women will not be aware they are starting their menopausal journey and it will be someone else who notices that their behaviour is changing. Until menopause is being taught effectively in schools and is understood by our GPs (at the time of writing, GPs may only get 30 minutes to five hours of education in their 10 years of medical training), it is imperative to provide workplace education.
I set up my company Women of a Certain Stage to educate employers on creating a menopause savvy culture and to provide coaching and mentoring for women transitioning through menopause. No woman or employers should go through what I did.
Law firms, like any organisation, must understand that being menopause savvy is critical to improving employee engagement and productivity, and in increasing attraction and retention of highly skilled female talent.
It is also imperative employers understand that menopause impacts everyone. The women going through it, their colleagues, partners, family and friends.
When I engage with corporate or individual clients, our initial conversation is always about understanding the bigger picture, the journey that the client wishes to embark on and together we create a plan of action.
As well as delivering training for their own team, often my legal clients will host seminars for their clients. DWF in particular, have been outstanding in inviting me to deliver introductory training on menopause at work for their clients, ensuring that more organisations become menopause savvy. I share best practice, including examples of a training needs analysis, introductory and annual communications, policies and guidance documentation, coaching and mentoring.
Menopause training, support and guidance needs to be deeply integrated into organisations as a priority. With it impacting almost all women, it simply makes sense.
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The Law Society have launched a menopause resource, in partnership with Peppy Health, including recommendations to organisations within the legal sector to create more inclusive environments. The resource also includes a comprehensive overview of the menopause and suggestions to individuals to manage symptoms.
We’ll be marking the launch with Peppy with an event discussing the menopause and the resource. Join us for free on Thursday 17 September.
The tribunal upheld Ms Merchant’s claim for unfair dismissal and direct sex discrimination. The manager had failed to investigate the possible impact of the menopause, the reason being, according to his evidence, that his wife and his HR adviser had both been through the menopause and so he could make a judgment on the effect on Ms Merchant’s performance and the impact on her ability to concentrate.
This failure was a clear breach of BT’s own performance management policy could only be explained by the fact that he did not take menopause, a strictly female condition, seriously as a medical condition and that he would never have adopted “this bizarre and irrational approach with other non-female-related conditions”, in circumstances where it is self-evident that all women will experience their menopause in different ways and with differing symptoms.
Therefore, the failure to refer the claimant for medical investigation, after being informed of her menopause, before taking the decision to dismiss, was direct sex discrimination as a man with ill-health in comparable underperforming circumstances would not have been treated in the same way.
The respondent shall reinstate the claimant by the 20 June 2018, and shall 35 pay to her the sum of Fourteen Thousand and Nine Pounds, Eighty Four Pence (£14,009.84) in respect of arrears of (net) pay for the period between the date of termination of employment and the date of reinstatement. The respondent shall also restore to the claimant all rights and privileges including seniority and pension rights.
The judgment of the Tribunal is that the respondent unlawfully discriminated against the claimant on grounds of age and sex. The respondent shall pay to the claimant compensation therefor in the sum of £27,975.
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